Dear one,

I'm so sorry to hear that you're experiencing grief and having trouble sleeping right now. I want you to know that I am here with you in solidarity, and although I cannot take away your pain, I hope that my words can offer some solace and comfort during this trying period. Grieving is an immensely personal and complex process, and it affects each of us differently. The loss you have experienced has undoubtedly left an indelible mark on your life, and I understand how it can disrupt even the most basic routines, such as sleep. 

Losing sleep while grieving is a common experience for many people. It can be challenging to find rest and peace during such an emotionally difficult time. Grief is a natural and complex emotion that can affect us physically, emotionally, and mentally. When I was deep in the thralls of my own grief and bereavement I spent many sleepless nights wavering between anger, guilt, anxiety, sadness and despair; it felt like I was on the most awful roller coater ride, blindfolded. Perhaps you're feeling something similar right now. You are not alone. Sometimes those nights seemed never-ending, I was desperate for anything to make me feel better, to feel connected to, to feel grounded, to help me cope. When I had completely lost my footing and the world was spinning out of control I searched endlessly for anything and everything about grief - when it will end, and how to get through it. While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, practice being patient with yourself and allow the grieving process to unfold naturally.

It's important to acknowledge that grieving and healing takes time. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to experience the emotions that arise. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed, angry, or even numb. Your emotions are valid, and it's essential to give yourself permission to process them in your own unique way. 

Tomorrow will be there for you. Tonight, I'd love for you to care for yourself by taking a few slow deep breaths in, and then slowly releasing them. While you focus on your breathing imagine I'm wrapping you up in the warmest embrace and giving you a couple of gentle squeezes while you exhale. Allow yourself to read an article or two, maybe journal if that feels okay, and then set your phone down and allow your mind to rest. And please remember, you are not alone.  

Wishing you moments of peace and the gradual restoration of restful nights. While the significance of your loss will never go away, the sharpness of the pain will begin to diminish over time. You are stronger than you know, and I have faith that you will find your way through this challenging period.

With heartfelt sympathy and unwavering support,

Lauren