Grief sucks! When you can’t wait weeks for therapy, and you want to be held right now by someone who gets it. This kit is that hug: instant comfort, practical guidance, and tools to help you breathe and get through the moment.
You don’t have to do it alone.
Anyone in the depths of grief — the moments that feel unbearable, endless, and isolating. If you’re struggling to hold yourself together and need comfort right now, this is for you.
No, this toolkit is not designed for children. While it’s simple to use and easy to understand, the language, tone, and exercises are created specifically for adults. The reflections and prompts focus on adult experiences of grief and are best suited for mature emotional processing.
When Lauren lost Derek at 38, she was overwhelmed and didn’t know what she needed or where to begin in the days and weeks after his death. She knows she would have given anything for someone to just crawl in bed with her in those moments she felt most alone and hold her. As a death doula, Lauren has learned how to process grief in a grounded, helpful way — and she’s built this toolkit from that experience, offering support for the moments and needs that often go unspoken.
This toolkit is here to guide you through the tough times of grief and loss. Inside, you'll find resources and activities to help you steady yourself when things feel overwhelming. Grief is different for everyone, so take your time as you work through it, and go at your own pace.
It's okay to feel lost in grief as you untangle emotions and memories, gradually finding the strength within.
Grief can feel like being lost in thick fog, unsure of where to go or how to move forward. It’s hard to see past the pain. But just as the fog clears, with time and support, you’ll find your way to healing and hope.
Grief can feel like being caught in a whirlpool of regret, it is a natural part of grief, but like all emotions, it will pass with time.
Grief comes in waves, shifting between joy and pain. Each emotion reflects the love you had, and your memories will always remain.
Grief can feel isolating, but like the ocean connects distant shores, you’re connected to those who care. Reaching out reminds you that you're not alone.
Grief is like the ocean, with emotions shifting from calm to stormy. In these moments, remember your strength will carry you through, and each wave brings you closer to healing and peace.
In grief, we seek signs of healing, much like sailors searching for a lighthouse in a storm. Your inner strength and the support of loved ones will guide you toward a brighter path of healing and renewal.
Grief is like a fragile raft of hope in a sea of sorrow. This hope keeps you afloat, reminding you that you're not alone. Friends and cherished memories will guide you toward healing.
As time goes on, the intensity of grief often eases, bringing a calm after the storm. Just like the ocean settling into peace, your emotions will gradually find a new sense of tranquility alongside the memories of what you’ve lost.
In this process of healing, find comfort in knowing that your journey through grief has made you stronger and more compassionate. Like the ocean finding its balance, you will too, balancing cherished memories with the hope of a brighter future.
These tools are for decision-makers navigating the logistics of grief and loss. They’re here to help, not overwhelm — use what feels comforting, skip what doesn’t, and lean on them when you need a little guidance.
When someone grieving receives this toolkit, they'll feel a sense of comfort and understanding. It offers a guiding light through the darkness, validating their emotions and showing them they're not alone in their journey. With practical support and insights from those who have walked a similar path, they’ll find solace in knowing that their feelings are acknowledged and that help is available when they need it most.